How to Call or Text a Girl – Works on Any Girl

Warning: the formulas shared in this publication works on any type of girl. If you don’t want to keep her company, don’t apply. As basic as they are, they will cause girls to stick on the phone with you either through text or call for long. Take time to practice for effective result.

Keep call or text for 3 – 5 minutes. Make conversation resemble neighbors sharing a flat. Call 1 – 3 times only and do not text without reply until 24 hours. Round up with ‘nice talking or chatting you, reach you later.’

How to Call A Girl the First Time

Studies show that, voice communication still carries the power it has since the beginning of time.

“phone calls are obviously the tried and true standby when it comes to customer communication.” “it improves personal engagement with your audience.” Kyle Kuczynski, business managing strategist. (MessageDesk)

Researchers found that, the voice itself even without visual cues seem to be integral to bonding. ScienceDaily. The University of Texas at Austin: “Phone calls create stronger bonds than text-based communication.”

Calling a girl first time feels different from subsequent conversations especially if you just met. Because you are yet to know her, you want to be mindful of what you say and the hour of the day you call.

Any loose word may terminate your friendship before it begins.

1. Call on the spot to exchange number

Exchange number

While this is not a requirement, to avoid having your number display as unknown caller; call her after getting her number to exchange contact so she can save your number. Some people fail to answer unknown caller.

On the other hand; she’ll fail to answer when she knows the caller and not comfortable talking to you. So, be smart with your decision.

I’ll say, if your conversation was promising; then exchange number.

  • Dial her number
  • As the phone rings and she reach for it, hang up
  • Tell her that its your number (if she doesn’t save, she may recognize it)
  • Do not text at this time as she is likely to ignore text notification

2. Wait till you get home

Reach home and relax

It is easy to make irrational decision when you jump into action. So therefore, wait until you reach home to plan.

  • Do not call until you have a thorough strategy
  • When you reach home, eat and take your bath
  • See to any important task first
  • Seat and relax
  • Watch the news, sport or listen to music

3. Structure your message and time to call

Set time to call

Now that you are calmed, you will make accurate and informed decision. Think of what to say and the appropriate time to reach her.

  • Remove every emotion out of the way
  • Do not call late in the night “I met a guy recently, I called him around 11:00 pm, a girl picked up. I asked of him and was told he wasn’t around. She asked what the matter was and I replied, its private, she went ballistic. He didn’t tell me he has a girl.” Tiffany.
  • Learn when to pull out of the conversation and call it a day
  • Rehearse your intro and exit messages before dialing
  • Set the time to call her

4. Call when you are ready

Time to call

After knowing what to say, when to call, you can now dial the number with the hope things will go well. You shouldn’t be nervous when you talk. She will hear it from your voice and start playing female tricks on you.

  • Do not call at odd time
  • Make sure you do not call repeatedly
  • Only call 3 times if you decide calling more than once
  • When she answers, greet and introduce yourself
  • Do not be aggressive, be friendly and keep petty words only
  • Exchange a few words depending on how the conversation goes
  • Wrap up the call by wishing her nice day or sound sleep or nice speaking with you
  • Tell her you may call back later (you don’t have to call following day, it may seem too desperate, it’s a human thing)

5. Things to say on first day

First day message

Keep away from any dirty talk or asking about her ex. Perhaps she just left a bad relationship and wouldn’t want to be reminded of the debris.

So, what should you say on first day?

  • Before you got her contact, if you started a conversation which was positive, raise that topic
  • Ask how her day is going
  • What work she does and why she is into it
  • Which college does she study and what is she studying?
  • Ask about her hobby and interest, her favorite sport or game
  • Engage in matters regarding your school if you go to the same school
  • Talk about her favorite subject

You want to make sure the conversation is not on you. Rather it is a one on one chat. Asking the above questions can lead to deeper conversations without much effort at your end.

Pay attention to her response to know when to walk out when things are not balancing. It may not be personal, she might be having a bad time or it is just not the right time.

6. Arrange to call next day

Call another time

First day has bought you time but depending on how previous conversation went, you may still feel unsafe to call again.

When you do, it is ok. But this is what you should do when you still feel tense after first call. The reason you are still unrelaxed is because you are emotional.

When you are having crush on a girl, she becomes special and you treat her differently. While there’s nothing wrong with that, it can play against you.

If you detect these things either first day or after speaking with her, you may be ruining your chances.

  • You are still nervous about calling her
  • Your voice was jerky when you spoke with her
  • You can’t stand the thought of losing her though you just met
  • You feel the need to treat her so special than any other girl in your life
  • You are worried about offending her
  • You are not sure if she was ok with your last conversation

The list goes on. Chances are, you will definitely take the wrong path, either getting needy or pushy when you don’t deal with these feelings early.

  • Stop fantasizing about her
  • Don’t call her until you neutralize the feeling
  • Keep the company of your friends to avoid being lonely
  • Watch television but avoid romantic movies
  • Occupy yourself with something profitable
  • Put her in friend zone
  • If you meet often, don’t avoid her (it will only make things harder)
  • Talk to other female friends to reduce the urge to connect with a girl

7. Call when you stop feeling overwhelmed

Avoid calling when you are stressed

After dealing with your insecurity and fear, you should bounce back from where you left. Again, depending on the leverage you have with first conversation; you can try daring new ground.

  • Start with more energy than previous day
  • You can crown her the queen of happy mood by saying “the day was rough, there’s no other person to speak with than you” when she says, is that so? Reply, “that’s the exact voice I need to hear”

It doesn’t have to go exactly like this, but if you succeed pulling something like this on second day, you may be heading somewhere great.

  • Next ask how she is doing and how was work
  • Remain in her line of conversation to keep her talking

When to Call a Girl After Getting Her Number

Call her right away on the spot to let her know your number. Apart from exchanging contact with her on the same day, getting into serious business that day may seem aggressive. So, wait for a day or two.

If you already sent her a text message, wait until she replies. When her reply delays for a day, you can follow up with a call.

Don’t start counting your loss when she didn’t reply or answer, she may be busy with other things. When you find it difficult to call, you should text first.

How to Text A Girl for The First Time

How to text

“People want conversations to occur quietly, in their own time, and at their convenience. This is why people prefer texting vs talking. Texting is a less obtrusive, more discrete, and yet still a near-instant way to communicate.” (DirectMessage)

When you just met, she may prefer texting rather than voice call. It is reported that, if you’re unknown, 1 in 4 consumers won’t even listen to your voicemail.

Although you don’t want to stay in the text message zone forever, starting with it could pave the way.

1. Call on the spot to exchange number

While this is not a requirement, to avoid having your number display as unknown caller; call her after getting her number to exchange contact so she can save your number. Some people fail to answer unknown caller.

Exchange number
  • Dial her number
  • As the phone rings and she reach for it, hang up
  • Tell her that is your number
  • Do not text at this time as she is likely to ignore text notification

2. Wait till you get home

Be patient

It is easy to make irrational decision when you jump into action. So therefore, wait until you reach home to plan.

  • Do not call until you have a thorough strategy
  • When you reach home, eat and take your bath
  • See to any important task first
  • Seat and relax
  • Watch the news, sport or listen to music

3. Structure your message and time to text

Schedule when to text

Now that you are calmed, you will make accurate and informed decision. Think of what to say and the appropriate time to reach her.

  • Remove every emotion out of the way
  • Do not text late in the night she may read different meaning into it
  • Learn when to pull out of the conversation and text it a day
  • Rehearse your intro and exit messages before dialing
  • Set the time to text her

4. Text when you are ready

Text her after planning

After figuring out what to text and when to text, you can craft your message.

  • Do not text at odd time
  • Do not send a long text
  • Start your text with greeting and introduce yourself
  • Do not be aggressive, be friendly and keep petty words only
  • Exchange a few words depending on how the conversation goes
  • After few minutes of chatting, wrap up
  • Tell her you may reach her perhaps another time

5. Things to say on first day

What to say after getting the number

Keep away from any dirty talk or asking about her ex. Perhaps she just left a bad relationship and wouldn’t want to be reminded of the debris.

So, what should you say on first day?

  • Before you got her contact, if you started a conversation which was positive, raise that topic
  • Ask how her day is going
  • What work she does and why she is into it
  • Which college does she study and what is she studying?
  • Ask about her hobby and interest, her favorite sport or game
  • Engage in matters regarding your school if you go to the same school
  • Talk about her favorite subject

You want to make sure the conversation is not on you. Rather it is a one on one chat. Asking the above questions can lead to deeper conversations without much effort at your end.

Pay attention to her response to know when to walk out when things are not balancing. It may not be personal, she might be having a bad time or it is just not the right time.

6. Arrange to text next day

Arrange for next text

First day has bought you time but depending on how previous conversation went, you may still feel unsafe to text again.

When you do, it is ok. But this is what you should do when you still feel tense after first text. The reason you are still unrelaxed is because you are emotional.

When you are having crush on a girl, she becomes special and you treat her differently. While there’s nothing wrong with that, it can play against you.

  • If you detect these things either first day or after speaking with her, you may be ruining your chances.
  • You are still nervous about texting her
  • You can’t stand the thought of losing her though you just met
  • You feel the need to treat her so special than any other girl in your life
  • You are worried about offending her
  • You are not sure if she was ok with your last conversation

The list goes on. Chances are, you will definitely take the wrong path, either getting needy or pushy when you don’t deal with these feelings early.

  • Stop fantasizing about her
  • Don’t call her until you neutralize the feeling
  • Keep the company of your friends to avoid being lonely
  • Watch television but avoid romantic movies
  • Occupy yourself with something profitable
  • Put her in friend zone
  • If you meet often, don’t avoid her (it will only make things harder)
  • Talk to other female friends to reduce the urge to connect with a girl

7. Text when you stop feeling overwhelmed

Overcome your emotions

After dealing with your insecurity and fear, you should bounce back from where you left. Again, depending on the leverage you have with first conversation; you can try daring new ground.

  • Start with more energy than previous day
  • You can crown her the queen of happy mood by saying “the day was rough, there’s no other person to speak with than you” when she says, is that so? Reply, “yes, it is”

It doesn’t have to go exactly like this, but if you succeed pulling something like this on second day, you may be heading somewhere great.

  • Next ask how she is doing and how was work
  • Remain in her line of conversation to keep her texting

Pros and Cons of Calling

Everything has its sides, so do calling a girl. Weigh both sides to see how they affect you before deciding which method to use.

ProsCons
Call is direct, so she sees you as a brave personPhone call is direct, hence puts both caller and receiver on the spot
It makes you look serious and maturedIt is demanding because you don’t want to leave any room for error
It is a communication medium which feels in personIf you feel nervous talking in person, your voice may be jerky on the phone
Hides your typing flawsExposes your lack of eloquence

Pros and Cons of Texting

Personally, I love texting, it gives me ample room to be creative and engage my imagination. I don’t have to abandon other important things to focus on calls. As these may be true about how I feel about texting, it also leaves vacuum to feel alienated.

ProsCons
You can choose when to reply textYou don’t communicate in real time
If you are a shy type, you can hide behind texting to communicate your feelingsIt doesn’t feel in person
You can hide your true feelings to prevent people from feeling badYou don’t know if people mean what they text e.g., laugh out loud
You can edit your text as many as you wish to suit your need before sendingGirls may not think you are serious when you propose over text

How to Get a Girl’s Number

1. Create chances to pick her contact

  • Pick up a conversation with her and later ask for the number
  • Say things like, can I have your number to find out about new stocks and prices i.e. if she manages a shop
  • Snap her and ask for the number to send it on WhatsApp
  • Ask open questions
  • Approach or call her as she passes, tell her you want to be friends, then, take her number

2. Exchange contact, give her your number and ask for hers

3. Ask her for her number

4. Ask a friend or family for it if she doesn’t leave around but you are both friends

5. Give her your business card after telling her what you do, then, ask for her number too

6. Pick from social media – If she has never denied you her contact, then, you can pick it from social media – I don’t think she added it for ghosts to call her – unless it’s a business contact

Places to Find a Girl

Where to find mate
  • Go to church – your place of worship may be the best place to find a partner – you don’t have to deal with your partner coming from a different faith background
  • Visit social gatherings – presents opportunity to meet new friends – start a chat and later exchange number
  • Socialize – connect with people from different backgrounds
  • Go for conferences – creates opportunity to meet new people, learn new skills and find new friends with likeminded.
  • Visit night clubs – a place you can buy a woman a drink to start a conversation or dance with her
  • Go to shopping malls – ask where you can locate the male apparel section and you can even ask her to help make collections
  • School – your course mate may be a perfect partner for you – getting her number may be a lot easier – tell her you want to do an assignment together – start with any excuse
  • Work place – since you meet often, it will be easier to exchange contact – you look for an excuse to get her number
  • Pay visit to friends – when you looking for a partner, don’t stay home – join your friends – they may connect you with someone you may find interesting

How to Make A Girl Call You Everyday

To make a girl call you every day:

  • Give her attention
  • Devote time for her
  • Ask open questions
  • Solve her problems
  • Visit her home to familiarize yourself with her parents and siblings
  • Give her space and don’t act hungry for her company (don’t force relationship, if she likes you, she will make room for connection)

How to Get A Girl to Call You Instead of Text

  • Find her interest and be available to discuss it
  • Don’t interact her when she talks
  • Tell her you prefer call to text
  • Be brief when replying text but be engaging when talking
  • Don’t be boring
  • Give her gifts, she will be forced to call to thank you
  • Don’t text her often, rather call
  • Be loud and clear over phone (fix bad phone mouth piece, position yourself where network signal is strong, don’t sound monotonous)
  • Ask questions that will lead to other (open-ended questions)
  • Make her feel important
  • Don’t be judgmental
  • Don’t always wait for her to hang up, tell her you busy at times even if you are not
  • Be productive (have a passion you chasing after, be serious about something in your life)

Is it Better to Call or Text A Girl?

When you just met, texting is better. For intimacy, consider calls. Talking on phone feels personal and creates bond quickly. It fills the gap of loneliness, helps express ones thought in real time and reduce the risk of recipient to misconstrue your words. Whereas, texting creates freedom on the part of the recipient, i.e. having enough time to decide what to text back.

Dateguide

Call gives urgency and gets you connected on a deeper level, you only attend to one at a time and it demands undivided attention however, with texting, you can reach multiple people same time, allows for writing deeper and thoughtful texts.

I prefer texting because I love writing. When I meet new friends, I text first, but I call when I want more engaging conversation.