How to Have Phone Sex – Novice to Pro

Phone sex is a way of gaining access to your own body, Mischa Byruck of Evolve, a Virtual Sex Expert. Phone sex helps discover your body through your fingers sensually. With phone sex, you are not limited to the size of the screen or busy adjusting your hair, or worried about looks. This makes it easy to focus on the goal, explore your body, or use toys to the fullest. And most of all, it does not depend on male performance. You’ll be amazed how much you can turn someone on with your voice.

The best way to have phone sex is to tell your partner you want to share sensual energy with them instead of asking for phone sex. If it’s your first time and it’s hard to get your partner on the same page, don’t rush things, rather create sounds that easily turn him or her on. Be participatory either by moans and grunts or by saying erotic words. Use speakerphone for free hands to use toys and stimulate yourself.

Instead of asking for phone sex, ask to share sensual energy

According to Virtual Sex expert Mischa Byruck asking to share sensual energy with a partner puts off lots of pressure on people instead of asking them directly for phone sex.

Rather than seeking their concern directly which may be embarrassing should they turn your offer down, start with intimate conversations to test the waters.

Imagine a massage or a hug

To get sensual with your partner on the phone, Mischa recommends starting with imagining a massage and a hug.

Activate your central voice

Mischa Byruck, says to have fulfilling phone sex, one must ignore the normal speaking voice which comes from the throat. “It’s a little nasal and it’s more airy, more bright and chipper.” Rather activate the central voice which “comes from the pelvis or your belly.”

Read erotic novels and stories

Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, creators of Dateable, one of the top 10 podcast about love and sex in a podcast, ”The Art of Virtual Sex” suggests reading erotic novels and stories to help develop erotic language.

Mastering erotic terms and phrases can really fast forward your phone sex demand and make both you and your partner enjoy each other over the phone.

Give your partner feedback

The most effective way to enjoy phone sex with someone since you are not there in person, is to listen to their affirmation. The absence of a partner’s feedback dampens your spirit and makes the activity of no effect since phone sex depends mostly on voice. Try to moan, sigh and even reply with short phrases “I like how you touch me baby” etc. Simply put, be participatory.

Use pleasure products and your hands

Since your partner is not around to engage his or her hands or tongue, opting for pleasure products and delegating your own hands for that purpose will be the best option. Doing so puts you in charge of your own body, hence, your pleasure.

Produce sounds that make your partner honey

For example, if taking earwax off your ears make you feel honey and your partner likes the sound you produce, do this when you are both silent for a while. You can also make erotic sounds to turn him or her on by speaking from your belly to generate sexual sounds.

Find out his or her condition

Know your partner’s condition to know if it is appropriate to raise romantic topics. Their response could let you know their mood. If they don’t seem interested, cut it for another time.

Ask if they are alone and if their phone is on speaker. You do not want to say anything to the hearing of others which is not meant for them.

Check their current location before you start

Find out where your partner is and who he or she is with to know the type of conversation to have. If their phone reception is bad, it will be hard to welcome this for lack of smooth talk.

When they’re with other people, it will not be possible to get romantic. Perhaps with family or friends or colleagues at work.

Do not haste with your words

When you speak, take your time and speak slowly so that you don’t need to repeat the words because your partner couldn’t hear you. You can repeat words but it shouldn’t be frequent and for lack of clarity. And talk like you mean it.

Hire a professional phone sex worker

“With a pro on the phone, one partner can talk while the other performs oral sex, or you can use a speakerphone to have sex while the phone sex operator talks dirty or directs the action.” (The ultimate guide to sexual fantasy)

“Also, you can conference on two separate cell phones, in two different locations, and stimulate with the phone sex worker as your explicit instructor.” (Violet Blue)

Finding phone sex operators

1. Reputable adult magazines
2. Advertisement at the back of local newspapers
3. Online (note that there could be fraudulent websites). Before paying for online phone sex, check the following:

• They are recommended by satisfied customers
• Have high rating
• Check the number of payment methods available on the website, having many payment options could be a sign of established service

Determining phone sex service cost and content

According to Violet Blue author of “The Ultimate Guide to Kink” and “The ultimate guide to sexual fantasy,” a number of prefixes will dictate the cost and content.

“Toll-free numbers start with 800,866,877, or 888, and will not appear on your phone bill, but instead on your credit card.”

Usually, clients pay with a credit card. The dispatcher or operator requires your credit card details before you get started.

Check for privacy policy before proceeding

For your privacy; find out their policy on sharing customer information. If they do share info and you are not comfortable with it, opt-out.

Also, learn how charges appear on your credit card statement, when they do reveal the name of the service and you think someone close to you is eminent to see the bill; use a card that you don’t share with others.

How to have fulfilling phone sex with a phone sex operator

Dispatchers route calls to workers who specialize in individual needs to satisfy clients, so, whether its a solo encounter or you are a couple looking for hot phone sex; inform the dispatcher or phone sex operator what you want and how you plan to engage the phone sex worker either by one on one, speakerphone or multiple phones.

1. When you are on the phone with the phone sex operator, be participatory
2. Guide the operator by providing details according to your needs
3. Give directions to the operator e.g., how you’d like the operator’s voice to sound and phrases that turn you on easily
4. Moan to let the operator know your feelings
5. Inform the operator if you need the talk to be dirtier
6. Also, describe things in a more vivid way for the operator to know your needs
7. You are not limited to anything, you can become submissive or cruel provided it fulfills your fantasy
8. Change fantasies to suit your desire, mood, and tone of conversation
9. You are at liberty to end the call if you are not feeling the vibe from the operator
10. You may ask for a different person if you don’t feel connected

Setup the stage

When you are both convinced to have phone sex, to make things more fun and romantic; set a day and time aside, especially evening, and follow the instructions below.

• Lay your bed

• Put on your favorite hot costume

• Off the light and lit the candle or dim the light

• Play a soft music

• Relax and get loose

• Don’t think of any distractive moment

12 Advantages of Phone Sex

1. No sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
2. There’s no need for contraceptives
3. It does not promote unplanned pregnancy which could lead to stress
4. It does not depend on male performance
5. It reduces or discourages the use of sex medications. For example, Viagra, Cialis, and Stendra
6. It takes away fear or shyness
7. It helps partners exploit different methods of sex life
8. Since you are not seeing your partner by face, you can make sexual requests you may be too shy to talk about in person
9. It helps reach the full organism. Because your partner may only be listening to your voice, you must create passion with sound which can help both partners attain multiple sexual climaxes.
10. The reason some women fail to attain full organism is because they put the workload on men. And when the man fails to reach his full potential, their sexual excitement is cut short.
11. One thing which can help women offload the male sexual workload is understanding their bodies. This can happen when they spend some time playing with it.
12. During phone sex, the woman may stimulate her body during sexual fantasies. This can help her understand her body.

11 Disadvantages of Phone Sex

1. It may be intimidating at first
2. It encourages easy access to sex, which could cause a partner to practice it with other colleagues (Cheating)
3. Addiction- It is easy to get addicted. As a person new to phone sex operation, it may be difficult embracing, but once you are familiar it’s hard to get over
4. You cannot physically touch each other
5. It discourages procreation
6. It promotes fornication
7. It promotes adultery
8. Though it bridges the gap between partners who live apart, it may also detach them
9. It takes creative effort to get your partner satisfied
10. Time zone could be a hindrance when you live in a different country or continent
11. It leads to early exposure to sex. As phone sex does not require a physical meeting, curious kids could engage in it

Dateguide

Ask questions, and suggest things. Speak out how you’d like it to be handled. Tell your partner about a memorable experience he or she left on your mind.

With your central voice, slay your partner with soft romantic sounds. Speak about what you putting on, the shape of your body parts.

Fill his or her mind with desires. Let your partner chase after you and raise their ambition to climax before you let them off the hook.

Women can have one on one moments with themselves to get used to their anatomy. This will help them in the future to experience multiple sexual climaxes in a lifetime.

No matter how much satisfying phone sex may be, it cannot replace real sexual experience. If done well, it may replicate the excitement of real-world sex but it can only grow your fantasy stronger to meet in person.

Note: Distance relationships only last for a while. The main goal of the relationship is not to stay apart but to live together as husband and wife.

Just like sex positions, phone sex creates unimaginable wild dreams in the bedroom. It kindles the sex drive between partners. It also maintains chemistry.

While men have to worry about how long they last; this method does away with such résumé. It also gives men ample time to practice the “start and stop” method.