Is it ok to text a girl whose number you got from someone else? Yes, it’s ok and here is how to text for the first time.
Text a casual message to avoid sending bad signal. Don’t be emotional. Introduce yourself in a short sentence. Don’t sound like stalker, and text her about who you got her number from.
1. Text a Casual Message to Avoid Sending Bad Signal
For fear that your message could be ignored, replied harshly, or any unforeseen factor that could lead to disappointment, you become agitated. This could lead to sending a message that leaves a bad signal.
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- Instead of going all out, be mindful to send only causal text i.e. your name and greeting
- When you chat over social media, you may add your photo to the text
- You may ask about her family and work if you are friends
- Feel free to mention the work you do and where you live
- If you are not sure she remembers you, go on to mention things that will remind her
- When she didn’t reply text for 24 hours, text again checking on her or call
- When she does not answer or call back after 3 times reaching her, move on
- To make things easier, ask questions on something she’s good at to start a conversation (Hello, it’s Richard from Liverpool. Please I need help with a recipe)
- Do not text sensitive message
- Do not send long message
- Desist from talking about her look
- Stay away from any sexually motivated word
- If you call, don’t speak for long, stay with basic information
- If she’s an old friend, the conversation may take minutes, don’t wait till she excuses you
- Don’t talk about how much you earn and don’t share too many personal details
- Do not text or call at the odd time especially if you are not sure of her relationship status
- Do not ask of her marital status or speak about yours unless the conversation happens to go that lane and this was raised by her
- Don’t keep sending many texts if she fails to reply
How to Avoid Messages That Send Bad Signal
If you feel tense:
- Do not send text
- Write a few texts in a book or on paper
- Read them out loud to your hearing to listen to how they sound
- Think of her as a sister or a friend with no emotional attachment
This should give you confidence and prepare you to send a message that will produce positive result.
2. Introduce Yourself
All you need is a short introduction. Do not go beyond that. Your name, where you met, or anything which will help remind her quickly. That is all you will need. The number one rule is to keep it as short as possible.
3. Don’t Sound Like a Stalker
You mustn’t start by telling her how you were admiring her all this while but lack the courage or had difficulty reaching her.
No need to talk about how long you’ve been chasing after the contact. And do not include anything about the look. Strictly avoid compliments that have to do with her body.
4. Source of Information
In the short text, after greeting, followed by your name and a piece of additional text; conclude by telling her where you got the contact from. In case you choose not to disclose your source, find a convenient answer should she ask.
This should give you confidence and prepare you to send a message that will produce positive result. If you still have challenge at this point texting; I recommend reading how to get a girl to like you over text.This will give you absolute control over your first text and subsequent ones.
What to Text a Girl After Getting Her Number
Texting a girl for the first time can be intimidating, but not when you are equiped with the right information.
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Examples of Correct/Incorrect First Text
|Correct first text to send a girl after getting her number||Wrong first text to send a girl after getting her number|
|Hello! This is Adam. Your course mate at Border College. Just got your number from one of our mates.||Hello! This is Adam. Your course mate at Border College. Ever since we left college, you have been on my mind and I wish we meet any time soon.|
|Hi, its Michael. We talked over the phone few days ago. Dziedzorm’s brother in-law.||Hi, it’s Michael. We talked over the phone a few days ago. Your voice keeps ringing in my memory. I watch your photograph each day. Dziedzorm’s brother-in-law.|
|Hey, its Henry. Thanks for coming to the birthday party. Got your number from your friend Tina to say hello!||Hey, it’s Henry. Thanks for coming to the birthday party. Got your number from your friend Tina to say hello! I was thinking if we could get to know each other and get closer.|
|Hello, I’m Jason from the bar. Have a nice day!||This is Jason, forgot to take your contact. Had to ask around. Stay in touch.|
|Good evening, was the one that fixed the lamp for you. Hope its still working. Ferguson.||If you fail to save this number, you will be missing out a lot. The most handsome guy in LA. Text back soon!|
When to Text a Girl After Getting Her Number
Text her right away after picking the number. And inform her that’s your digit. Texting a girl is not a Billing Basal body temperature method for family planning.
Are you marking days of the week on your calendar; looking at the day you picked the number and when the appropriate time would be to reach her?
It’s normal to feel so. But it’s now time for action.
Send your introductory message the first day after getting her number. When the first day seems inconvenient, send it on the second or third day.
While there’s no one fit for this, you do not want to waste much time texting her. Remember your first message is only an attempt to make her get your number and be aware you are interested in following up on the last meeting.
How to Text a Girl Who Doesn’t Know You Have Her Number
- Elsie, how is your day going? Just picked your number from Facebook. Reagan.
- Good morning sunshine, this is Stephen, it’s been a while.
- This is your coursemate Fedrick, just found your number in my diary, checking if it’s still available.
- Hey was asking of you from Fortune Maxwell today, I took your contact to say hello. How are you doing? Kingsley.
- Hello there! Before I had the chance to take your number, you were already gone, had to ask your friend. Anthony, the guy’s birthday party you attended. Thanks for coming, hope you enjoyed it.
How to Text A Girl If She Doesn’t Have Your Number
Remove the mentality of fear of rejection. Do not sub-communicate anything that shows eagerness. Use texting as a way of making a simple connection, asking quick questions, and arranging dates.
1. Stop Being Scared of Rejection
Your nonverbal signals will betray you, miles away before you approach the girl of your dream. If you are not confident, a girl can tell by how you stand, your body movement, and so on.
In texting, there’s no way to show bravery or timidity through nonverbal cues yet these can be revealed through the coded language behind your text.
Girls are naturally blessed with communication skills; they can read between lines and figure out all hidden pieces of information which you may not even be aware of yourself. So before sending your first text, put your fear under control and go ahead and send your text.
2. Use Text to Make Simple Connection
Before you plan on doing back and forth texting with a girl, the kind of text that takes many hours, you need to have that personal connection with her.
Your first text should be that exact channel that creates the opportunity for that connection. While you wait on meeting again sometime, after it been your first-time handshake or preparation for second date, “Texting is the bridge between when you see her, and when you see her again.” Chase Amante.
So, when you write your first text, let it serve as a bridge between when you see her and you’ll meet again not as in the way you will talk to her in person or on phone if you already establish a personal connection with her.
3. Avoid Messages Without Emotion
Don’t send lame texts like “what’s up?”, “how’s the going?” Research shows that messages like this end up giving the recipient a mental load.
And what happens? Instead of replying, she ignores it all together to avoid the stress of figuring out what to say back.
When you text, make your intention clear in that she hears you out loud and clear and knows what to text back.
4. Arrange to Meet in Person
Before you type your first letter, know that: “A girl’s text message inbox is one of the most efficient “guy screening” tools ever invented.” Moe Abbassi.
Find a link to start a conversation with your first text. Feel free to state your reason for texting. Keep your text friendly and plain. Talk about how you got the number.
You don’t need to come up with witty lines or the perfect meme. What you need is to create a channel that grants you the link to ask her out on a date.
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“Hey Sarah, thrilled by the brilliant display of knowledge at the quiz competition this weekend at the community center. You should take on a champion like me as well, but before then, you need a refreshment. Let me know when your schedule’s clear, and let’s set it up.”
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How Soon Should You Text a Girl After Getting Her Number?
Text her the very day you got her number. Wait for a few hours after getting the number to avoid looking desperate and also save yourself from sending a bad signal. Wait 24 hours after sending the first text before following up if she hasn’t replied.
How to Start a Conversation with a Girl You Just Got Her Number from a Friend
Imagine what the text you are sending would do for you emotionally if you were a girl in stress, loaded with troubles and you received this text from a strange contact. Pretend she’s forgotten about you and you have to start afresh creating amazing interaction with her.
1. Stop Treating Phone Numbers as A Concert Ticket
Taking a girl’s phone number is not a concert ticket, and she neither assumes it is. Buying a college admission form is not admission letter.
“Phone numbers mean nothing. They’re a dime a dozen… nothing more than a chance. They are not a guarantee, a promise, or an assurance of any kind.” Moe Abbassi.
This is the time to work your way around her even if you had great time on first meeting. She probably forgot you, chances are she’s not expecting your text or thinking of meeting you ever.
So when you text, don’t send messages that her close friends and relatives will send because they meet a thousand times a day.
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2. Put Your Foot in Her Shoe
If you were a girl, how will you feel when your notification bell goes off, then there’s a message from a strange number asking “what’s up,” then there’s another saying “The weather is bright as expected, this weekend happens to be my favorite and it’s my obligation sharing my good mood with a fortunate contact. You happen to be that fortunate one. How’re you?”
Which of these are you likely to reply? Most definitely the later. Since people are going through a lot already, you do not want to put them in anymore difficult situation fighting to reply your text.
The former text seems simple but it puts the receiver in a difficult position, she wonders exactly what the sender means, whether to tell the sender about her problem or ignore the text.
Finally, she drops the phone and eventually ignores your text. Send a message that calms your receiver, a clear message that is easy to reply and something that is worth attending to.
3. Most Girls are not Worried about Contact Location
Another thing that may stop you from reaching her is answering the question of where did you get my number? Honestly, most girls are no more worried about that.
Their contacts are everywhere on the internet. You think they left it there waiting on Elon Musk to call for Mars tour? Absolutely no! It’s there for those with masculine features to dare.
Instead of worrying about what she will say, worry about what to text. And instead of worry about what to text; start texting now.
4. Take the First Step
The truth is, it depends on your relationship with her. The question is does she know you or she’s a crush and you are trying to gamble your way in?
In this case, you need to let her know your relation with the friend giving you the contact or you let your friend inform her earlier on before sending any text.
“Hello Cynthia, this is Brian, a friend of Annabel. The sun’s barely getting a chance here at my end in Los Angeles. How’s your end?
“Hello Cynthia, this is Brian, a friend of Annabel.”
If she knows you, just let her know who you are, where you got the number and say hello.
“It’s been long, where have you been? This is King Soul, remember the rapper with the big voice? Was chatting Fedrick 30 minutes ago and got your number from him. Let’s meet one of these days if you are in town.”
5. If She can’t Stand You then Bye
Stop thinking of giving out details of who’s texting, where contact is coming from, write a good call to action text. If she can’t live up to it, then let her go. Period.
“Had too much pizza last night, my tommy hurts. First time at Ronald’s Pizza. And it’s the best ever, next time I don’t want to go alone. So let me know if you are a pizza freak too that we can hit that joint perhaps tomorrow.”
6. Treat this as a Number You got Online
Quickly run through her Instagram page then hit her up saying: “Hey there, I’ve been following you a lot on Instagram and I kinda like what you up to, I’m really occupied but would check my schedule to make time for a hangout. Hit me up. Jamal Abdul.”
What to Text a Girl When You Get Her Number
|Strike conversation with first text||Ask her out with first text|
|Nice meeting you. Patrick.||What a get together weekend. Too crowdy this weekend for me. Next one I want an escape from bunch of friends. A place for one-on-one conversation. If you have some friends to hide from, we can use my refuge. Let me know early so I make time for it.|
|Happy thanks giving day! Glad you made it. Henry.||There’s something about your Instagram images that tells me you work relentlessly to achieve the best shot. I have a photo studio and we work like hell to provide only the best. This is a place you should be for another killer shot. Nothing but professional output awaits you. Its your call. Halla me if you in.|
|Hey damsel, its Quincy from AT&T. Are you home yet?|
|Beatrice, it’s been thousand years. Where have you been? Got your number from Isaac. Festus.|
|Hey ya! Found you on Facebook. Armstrong.|
First Text to a Girl After You Get Her Number
- Hello Cynthia, this is Alfred. Talk to you soon.
- It was fun last night. Cephas.
How to Text Someone Who Doesn’t Know You Have Their Number
Mention the source of the number, tell the person your name that they are aware of who they’re replying to, and say greetings. Mention where you know the person or where you met.
If you met at a gathering, or a party, school, he/she is a family let them know. Introduce yourself for easy identity.
Alternatively, ask the person who has the number to inform her, if she gives the go-ahead, then you can take the number and it will be much easier to reach her.
Whenever you send text message for the first time, stay away from using romantic words. Do not write lengthy text, as she will feel bored. You are likely to make mistakes when you write more text.
Remember to keep text short and simple, text where you met, mention your name, and do not sound needy. In short, do not leave a bad signal.
As texting may play proportional role in relationship; newly established ones equally need physical interactions. So therefore, don’t hide behind text messages to build a relationship. Talk on phone and also arrange date.
Only speaking over text do not build intimacy. You should spend time together outside technology, get to know each other. This way, you are creating room for deeper emotional attachment.
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